11 Things I would like in a girl April 18, 2008
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Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm………………………………………………..
This is a work in progress, It will be a little while before I blot the 10+1 things down.
I’ve always been diffrent from other kids, while growing up I’ve always been on my own,as a loner. I make friends pretty easily.I’ve grown up to realize, a lot people don’t like my ways (even when they have no business in my life). I have a really childish voice, and used to get bugged when people would mock me and make fun of me. I’ve drained the voices out, there is only how as much as you can take.
As you guys know I’ve had a very protective childhood and no emotionally undesirable bad experiences, A part of me wants to keep it that way.
A part of me likes to help others and as like ara, I’ve realized people run over you. I am a very possessive there are a lot of things I would never share ( I guard my ink pen , no mater what) and am pissed when someone flicks uses something which is mine. I’m a kinda selfish individual, A lot of things I like to do just for me
“You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.”
I find it a lot easier to make friendship when someone walks up to me, I get the feeling that person is interested in me. I try to avoid situations, where the Q of honesty comes into effect, because if the Q comes up, it means I have to take sides. I’ really don’t mind a little hank-panky, when it comes to bending the rules to help others ( or myself ,its survival of the fittest )
I’m a shy person almost cowardly. I’ve gone from rockstar to the circus clown in large crowds. I find some magical power to stand up for what I believe in , and pack a powerful punch to get the word across.
As a 22 year old I think I’m still a baby and I have my whole life to look forward for that ONE. I don’t see my self as a romantic. When I walk on the street I see thousands of girls I think are pretty, but when I hold their hand, they seem so ordinary. I mean they are really nice people. I just don’t feel a SPARK. I feel like i’m being selective, when no girl would look at me, hehe. Then again I’m looking for that someone special.
Am I reaching for the stars, What do you ladies think ?
I do not think you are reaching for the stars but I can tell you I never felt a “spark” when holding anyone’s hand. I have felt “butterflies”. I think you have to be happy with yourself to be happy with anyone else.
They say if you get married at 20 you will look back at 30 and not know who you are/who you married. After being married 5 yrs and together with my husband for almost 7, I can see why they say that.
I understand the need/want to find and be with that special someone all I am saying is don’t rush it. You are only 22. You have a career and a lot of wants/dreams ahead of you and sometimes when you find someone you end up settling and not fullfilling them. You are nice and deserve to have what you desire FIRST. Make sense?
OMG…6mile….we must have a shared Indian vibe going on here?!?! I just composed a post talking The Spark last night! I sent it to Gori to see if she’s interested to put it on her site. If it’s not a fit for what she’s looking to post, I’ll of course post it overin my web-dent.
I think WmWb has said a lot of great things for you here. I know I’m going to look back at those guys I dated in my early 20’s and think: what the hell was I thinking?! But that’s just me—everyones story unfolds differently. Plus, remember I am still in a sort of honeymoon phase with my relationship…so all the happiness and bliss I talk about I’m sure will mute a bit and change into something new (and perhaps more rich?) as the years go by
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Another point for those not used to dating American style would be to enjoy the process. Don’t think too much about ‘Is this the ONE?!?!!’ if you can help it… enjoy the small things along the way. Get to know people and try to take grand expectations of marraige. I mean, I’m still fairly glad for most of my experiences before I met my R. I got to know many different guys and their friends–those are good experieces I’m certain I will look fondly upon in the future.
Anyway, just my two hundred cents.
I agree with wmwb, there is no rush. Take time to know yourself and what you like, what is important to you.
Some people can have fun with casual dating, and that initial “rush” cant be beat. But I also think its important to know what you type of relationship you want BEFORE the date, and to be upfront with the girl about it. Lets face it, alot of American dating ends in heartache and alot of times you didnt plan to get in too deep but then you do. Its natural to get attached. And it can be with someone totally incompatible too.
Sometimes you might want nothing serious and end up finding your soul mate, and thats great. But just please be honest with yourself and honest with the girl. I think thats only fair.
BTW, I dont mean to sound like you can map out your life perfectly or anything like that. Things happen. Im just saying sometimes you have to think with your head before you think with your heart… or any other parts, lol.
Oh, also, I agree with NK that you can get to know someone slowly before thinking “Is this the one”, but Im kinda of the mindset that you should know whether or not you are looking for the one before you find her. If that makes any sense!
Oh yes Mirchi, I agree, that’s why I made my top 10 list …. and then coincidently found what I was looking for right after I made it!!
Can’t wait to see 6miles list… ohh la la!
I knew I spent a lot of time in the online world but it wasn’t until a few hours ago I really was struck with how much time my mind is on it even when I am not on the computer….
I was driving to the store after picking my daughter up from school and in front of me was a vehicle that had a personalized license plate (background: I always try to figure out what the person meant the tag to mean). The plate said 5SMILLE. Wanna guess what I thought? Well, I thought first SMILE and then I was like wait that is not an “S” it is a “5″..so then I thought 5MILE (which made me think of 6mile -which lead me to YOU 6mile LOL) and then I was like no it has two L’s so then my mind went all crazy but yea so um I think about online stuff ALOT apparently.
even if you dint spend a lot of time on here, that name plate would have struck a bell
, just imagine how much people must have interacted in person,before computers …………..even television.
mirchi, I know have a lot of time, hehe. But I’ve come to realize that the best things in life don’t just walk up to you, you have to sometimes go out and grab them, I guess thats where NK’s ideas come in. I’m taking it real slow wmwb , on a snails pace,hehe.
NK, remember raising like a phoenix
I think wmwb would make a wonderful nanny, she has a very kool laid back persona about her.
Ara has been missing for a little while now.
I really don’t have much advice here, other than that relationships can take time to develop, and friends can often make the best romantic partners. If Aditya hadn’t walked into my life I’d probably be in a very similar situation as you. I too am really shy and prefer for others to approach me.
Oh, and you shouldn’t feel bad for feeling “selfish” – you’re supposed to be focusing on yourself while you’re young – figuring out what you like, what you want to do for the next 60+ years, and how you’re going to go about doing that.
I must admit sometimes I feel rushed. mmmm……..short term goals are always easy to work on, long term ones tend to take a back burner.
Ara and NK make me look like an angel
, I’m just an ordinary guy you would pass on the street.
What? We make YOU look like an angel…muahahha Keep dreaming my friend hehe
I am not intentionally missing, just had a lot to think about recently… thinking about exactly what I do want from life. When I am low, I find it hard to write or comment because I want to be positive about things. So I guess I am just lurking at the moment.
I feel like I always get you at the wrong time
OH..doh, sorry it was a joke 6mile..cheer up
In fact, I think you are a very nice guy 
I just happened to notice that my entire audience is made up of ladies ,hehe.
With the exception of Aditya
6mile… da pimp
haha, ara
Dont think I didnt think twice before joining your harem here
LOL
Muhahaha. Well, at least he treats us well here hehehe
6mile really is the man. He’s the best. So where’s your 11 things?? People are dying to know…ha!
6mile, I’m sure you may not know this song, but there’s a country tune about a guy who writes himself a letter – as an adult writing to his younger self. (I only know it because suddenly I live in Texas and country music is all over the radio. lol)
And it made me think about what I would say if I had the opportunity to write a letter to my 20-year-old self. I know there are several men that I would warn myself to stay far far away from. And I think the “spark” that you speak of can sometimes lead to disaster. Not always, but often that spark is based on lust and nothing too deep.
I think at 22, the very best thing you can do for yourself is wait, watch, and try to be very selective in the people you open yourself up to. In short – being picky is a good thing, as long as it’s not the shallow kind of pickiness. (i.e. – “I want a girl who looks like XYZ and has XYZ kind of job” etc). Be an observer of others – study them. You’ll be surprised what you can figure out, without having to date them first.
And the “spark” is often overrated.
I don’t think you’re reaching for the stars, just out there looking for what the rest of us single folks are…just happiness. Yeah..you kinda lead us off topic there 6mile. NK has a point…where are the 11 things? hehe you can’t get out of it THAT easy
I haven’t heard that song, CA
. By spark I don’t mean lust, I see tons of pretty girls each day,hehe 
. Its like running to your dad when he’s been away for over an year and hugging him tight. I’ve been super selective and I think time is ripe for me to embrace NK’s ways. I’m shallow in a way I guess( I’m only human after all ), my list should contain my shallowness.( or preferences)
NK n Ara, I’ve kind of had a virtual list for a while,I never wrote it down,but will type as soon as I get done with school, which is pretty soon. I shall be preparing a serious list like you guys in the near future.:)
CA I know that song. I have always liked it. It is true though as I have mentioned to 6mile before about growing older and looking back and noticing the differences. I also agree the spark is overrated (or butterflies as I call it). I think it is cool if it is there (or if it lasts) but a girl should not be ruled out because of it.
6mile I think what CA was saying is selective is not a bad thing but getting so selective that you narrow your thoughts too much “being shallow” i.e. I only want a skinny blonde haired blue eyed BMW driving millionaire… and where you are a guy and might have some shallowness I do not see you like this.
tick tock tick tock…..
I don’t see 6mile as narrow and shallow-minded either. I think CA is just trying to say, don’t get blind-sided by the spark you’re looking for. Sometimes that spark just isn’t enough, becomes an infatuation that the other person may not feel the same about. But then again, hey who am I to give any advice on relationships :/
NK, you’re too funny MS. Clock
You reminded me of shallow hal wmwb,;), remember you had told me to marry a rich gal
, so that I could be a couch potato 
hehe, you guys seem eager, I’ve kind of had a unwritten list of what to look for in a girl, but i’ll be working on serious one as soon as i get done with exams. Be fair to me :p , I dint have a head start.
What part of me reminds you of that movie??? LMAO. Yea yea I said marry a rich girl just don’t put it on your list
I can’t even fathom the words “shallow” and “6mile” ever being placed into the same sentence.
I think we have a sense of that qualities that we are attracted to for whatever reason…Jung used to say we were looking for our other halves in the form of an opposite and then later changed his thesis to a more sophisticated one that suggests are a looking for a similar other, synergistic to ourselves. Through making a list of the qualities we are often subconsciously attracted to can help illuminate patterns, archetypes that we seek out. The list can be very revealing…but only if it is written with a significant amount of self-awareness and honesty.
I just saw a pretty cool interview with the guy who owns the lucrative Lettuce Entertain You franchise and he uses sort of a self-made (no pun intended) “therapeutic approach” business model. He suggests that you are at the center of everything and even the universe. In other words, you create your mood, you create your destiny, it is you who can align yourself with the cosmos even. This is akin to the notion of “living your bliss.” The list is just one more way to align yourself with what is most true and honest to that personal center you are undeniably master of.
I hope your exams are going well
i just got done with them ara, hmm almost. one went very bad, im hoping i get a good grade out of it
Good luck then
hmmmm, I’m working on my list of 11 things I would like in a girl, till then here is an unofficial list,
People aren’t perfect NK ! There are things about a person you know only when you meet them
. I think opposites attract , because they have so much to share and you get to look at life diffrently.
Not keeping you waiting anymore
1. Some one sweet and caring. I guess thats a universal favoutite.
2. Talkative, life is just soo much fun when you have someone to talk to.
3.She should be really content with life, I often find myself unhappy with my life, sometimes cut off.
4. Adventurous, always open to to try new and exciting things, I choose to live life conservatively, but I’m a liberal at heart.
5. Outgoing, I often find myself shifting gears from neutral to first, second. But, I often get caught in neutral ( being a homebody). It would be nice, if i had someone to jump start me.
6. I would like to have an equal partner in life.
7. I believe in god, and am still finding my way, Hinduism has a lot of good things about it , as well as flaws. There is just something about hope and spirituality. Thats some thats definitely wanted.
8. She should have a social conscience , maybe not the Green Peace kind, maybe do little things to make a difference
9.I’m sometimes a very shy person, It would be nice to have someone who is willing to take control when it matters.
10.She should become a part of the family, not an Auxiliary , my parents are really easy to please, so is my bro, hehe. But, I do foresee problems with my mom, more like CBC’s MIL kind.
11. I guess the shallow part is, I would like someone as old as me or maybe a lil younger and height is also a factor.
I love your references to vehicles “jump start me” … etc lol
I think your list is awesome and not shallow but I will have to say if you want all of the above I wouls say omit #11. I am not saying there are not grown up 22 yrs olds (and younger) I am just saying they are harder to find. You would do better with a woman between the age of 22 and 28 IMO.
hehe, wmwb, I’m 23 in a couple of months, and I have a long long time
to go.
Anyways , I’m working on a final list. That should be out soon
Finally! hehe, just kidding.
Its interesting… seems you are looking for the yang to your yin. Often it seems people are trying to find someone who matches them and you are looking for more of the opposite, or the compliment to your side. I really like that.
I very much understand the “jump start me” comment. I feel the same way. I want to do things but I need a little push in the motivation, and I like when someone wants to do things with me and encourages us together. Sometimes I feel MRP’s complacency drags me down. I KNOW that it should come from within me, but still….
#9 is me too.
You probably wont plan to get married until at least 26 right? And may I ask, how tall are you? Just curious!
Hey 6mile,
I like the list! About time hehe
I see #5 and #9 as being mostly the same, going hand-in-hand, but I agree with you because when you are shy, sometimes you need that other person to drag you out of your shell at least once in a while. It is good for you to be forced out of the box/your comfort zone on occassion. Otherwise, you get stuck in a rut, staying at home, watching tv, writing blogs… checking email heheh.. oh wait, that sounds just like ME! LOL!
I see #2 as the probably the most important one on the list. After getting past the initial romance and dating, you have to have something left over, or the relationship will just not work. I see too many people that have forgot they need to be FRIENDS with their spouses as well. The passion tends to fade some, especially those that are tired out from work and their children, you still need that close friend to be able to bond with. Without it, what are you left with 20 years down the road? a lot of divorces. To be close friends is simply another form of love of that person!
6mile, don’t place yourself in a square box on number 11. Don’t be afraid to date a woman older than yourself or taller than yourself. I especially wouldn’t worry so much about the age factor because what if you miss the one simply because you passed her up because she didn’t fit the criteria exactly… I am just recommending that sometimes life is full of surprises..
Finally a list! Good work!
Indeed, Ara…..
Yeah ! most probably 26-28. I’m looking for someone to complement me
). I’m not shy shy. There are times when I do my own thing, but there are things that make my legs rattle, hehe. I’m sometimes the laziest person in the world 
. I’m 5′ 6″ give and take a few mm.
It always helps to have outgoing friends Ara, all I go out with my roomies is to eat and for most going out means hanging out at a pub. lolz.
on every guys list. hehe.
I wish I had a movie partner , or someone who would be like, lets to rock climbing or kayaking.
Being a guy there is always a number 0.
This is not my official list ara, hehe. hmm i dont know if no 11 is flexible, depends all on my mom.
“i dont know if no 11 is flexible, depends all on my mom.” oh PLEASE do not go there again…..
Let me tell you a little story…
I almost married a guy before I got with my now hubby. The factor that stopped me??? His parents. They were very nice, very sweet, very religious people which was great BUT I could not stand that they were so much a factor in his life. He relied on them financially, emotionally, and spiritually. I think once a child grows up they should be independant of that (minus the emotional part).
I love my parents do not get me wrong but my parents have NEVER had a say in who I saw or what I did and I expected the same out of my partner. He would have been happy living with his family all his life (even when married with children)…..
Where was I going with that, oh I know. It should not matter what your mom thinks about the girl only what you think. Your parents should be happy because you are happy. If you live your life trying to please everyone else you will end up being unhappy.
6mile, I thoroughly agree with WmWB. Your parents cannot live your life for you, although lots of them would love to do that to us kids. To be honest, no significant other is ever good enough for the parents. They are naturally protective of their children, so you need to do what will make YOU happy, not them because in the end, it is YOU that will have to live through the trials and tribulations of that relationship, not them..or it shouldn’t be them anyway.
I’m still working on my list, I would like my parents to be happy with my choice too. I guess they will never be totally happy.
I’m not blocking anyone out of my list, I usually never proceed far enough to look for qualities. If I ever have a “sweet November”, the list might go all out.
“I can’t even fathom the words “shallow” and “6mile” ever being placed into the same sentence.”
LOL, NK your disgust is showing through the screen.
I didn’t say 6mile was shallow, I don’t know why everyone was jumping on that. I think most of you got the point.
and 6mile, this part of your list
“11. I guess the shallow part is, I would like someone as old as me or maybe a lil younger and height is also a factor.”
Doesn’t strike me as shallow. Physical attraction has to be there, and that doesn’t make you shallow. All I said was that being picky is good, as long as its not just the physical stuff you’re being picky about. But I think you already knew that…
LOL, maybe I need to be just more picky myself LOL
Alright, Im going to step out and support 6mile here….
I think its okay that you prefer someone younger than you. I can understand your reasoning behind it(parents) and that its just a general guideline. I think that if it came down to an individual, it probably wouldnt matter as much. Its fine to have specific things you want in a person. Im sure we all have an age limit, or preference at least.
Not to pick on WMWB, just to bring out an example…You couldnt be with a guy who was too close/dependant on his parents. That was your choice. But anyone can say ” you are letting the right one get away based on xyz”. I say if its not for you, its not for you.
And oh, thanks for making me feel so old 6 mile!!!!!! lol, just kidding… half.
“Not to pick on WMWB, just to bring out an example…You couldnt be with a guy who was too close/dependant on his parents. That was your choice. But anyone can say ” you are letting the right one get away based on xyz”. I say if its not for you, its not for you.”
You are correct I could not and it wasn’t for me (necessarily) but I also do not believe there is only ONE right person for someone out there.
I think relationships are what each person makes them. 3 of the guys I have been in a relationship with I did not end up marrying but I am pretty sure I could have been just as happy with any of them but I went down a different path instead.
My point was there are so many people out there never just rule something out. Make sure someone has a few other flaws than just age lol.
WMWB “I also do not believe there is only ONE right person for someone out there.
I think relationships are what each person makes them.”
I totally agree with that! I think believing in “the one” is something of a childhood fantasy. I just used that example, because I have heard people say stuff like that
Hope you didnt feel I was singling you out or anything!
I know/knew what you were saying abt not simply ruling out someone. And I agree with that too… but to each, his own.
God this was such a nice and peaceful place until The Toxic Sidekick showed up.
WmWb is very true when she says that the right person might just pass me by, but im sure one can find the best of both worlds
. Your married Mirchi, hehe.
I never seem to get to know girls good enough to look for the qualities I want, or worse I always end up in the “Just Friends” side. “The one” is definitely overrated
, when you have real nice friends to make life wonderful, sometimes you just wonder. I wont deny there have been times when I have felt so lonely , wishing I just had a romantic interest so some kind, but it doesn’t feel right just for the sake of having one. There are times when I have thought of even going celibate, hehe.
Sometimes, I feel im too selective, other times I feel im saving myself a lot un needed heart ache.
NK and CA , I know that things are not rosy between u guys, coz of incidents that happened in the past in CBC, on the brighter side CBC brought all of us together. CA, if you go through NK’s blog,you’ll see an aliter view and NK’s way of looking at things. I’m sure NK also visits cbc and there are a load of wonderful posts,which helps her in her endeavor.
You guys are more mature than me, When I was a in school, I read a short story by Leo Tolstoy, It taught the meaning of the word reconcile, http://www.online-literature.com/tolstoy/2890/
Aw 6mile, you’re such a doll
. That’s why I keep coming around here 
.
But my dear 6mile, as you said over at my blog, life does “end up cluttered either way” and so that’s why I find it best to actively filter out the bad and keep the good. You need not give people 3-4 chances. Be wary young grasshopper, sometimes the bad is actually good, sometimes the good is actually bad, and often both can be embodied in the same thing. You cannot always be passive and ever-accepting. This is why I can never truly be a Ghandi Hindu
. One must always be actively discerning of dark and light forces, using not only the heart but the head, too. 
One must be compassionate and merciful as much as just, rational, and fair.
I’m going to send you a private post I did for a few readers who really appreciated it, it will explain the specifics.
Hmm… NK, I think you’re just a Jedi instead, but I GET the BLUE light saber! Speaking of light sabers, Hastings Video/Book/ETC. is selling them hehhe..they even make the wvrooom noise hehe Hmm…. I think maybe NK reminds me of Yoda hehehe
NK-I think that is unnecessary. I am sorry to say it but I think you are being childish. I am sorry but I have to defend my friend here there is no reason to keep referring to her as “toxic” and sidekick??? who’s mine? I really am offended. You have no reason to say rude things like that. BTW you are not blocked from the CBC site (this is what I mean about the whole misunderstandings thing).
I think you both have insight and good advice to offer 6mile and I am totally with 6mile on this.
If no one can get along freakin just keep your negativity to yourselves cause I know I do not want to hear it and I am sure no one else does either. I come to blog as an escape from my real life issues I do not want to have drama here too…
Sorry guys. Sorry 6mile I did not mean to turn your blog into a bitch fest.
I think this gives NK and CA an opportunity to make amends, whether you take up this opportunity or not , thats your choice to make. There is nothing better than making up, and gaining a friend
Yes ara, you get it! Ha. The problem is I ended up being a conduit for many, many readers “over there” who were completely offended, felt snubbed, and were tired of the negativity. I mean, I was really not the only one who felt this way—I was the only one sassy enough to dish back what they were giving. And they couldn’t take it.
I have received many messages communicating real concerns about the overall dismal views expressed on that site and how it is often the first they stumble upon when dealing with these issues. This I find particularly troubling when considering people who are looking for a place to start working through and resolving their issues with an open mind. Thus, I have no problem taking heat in standing up for not only myself but for those who are disillusioned and disheartened from the information they find over there.
Again, I keep receiving more and more messages from thoughtful people, working through their issues, sharing their feelings, and aiming for the light at the end of the tunnel. These people have thanked me for being the one alternative voice because they were afraid, intimidated, and bullied into silence.
Honestly 6mile? Did you ever read some of the horrible comments CA posted about Indian culture? I’m really guessing you didn’t. They were utterly vitriol and toxic. I cannot even bring myself to repeat what was said here. Of course you won’t find the comments now because she deleted them herself. That type of thinking perpetuates stereotypes, reinforces small thinking, and feeds on the many misconceptions that Indians constantly suffer from being the object of. This type of thinking should not only completely insult Indians but any caring, rational individual. I honestly don’t know how any self-respecting Indian could read the type of things she wrote and bring themselves to “look past” them or even consider welcoming such opinions. (I didn’t mean that towards you personally 6mile—just to anyone who read those comments or really understanding the thinking going on there).
I mean, hey, if anyone still finds redeeming qualities over with the Rush Limbaugh’s of American/Indian relationships, be my quests and keep reading if that works for you J (but don’t be surprised if your comments are censored if you don’t agree with their POV). Frankly, I need to look at it as a farce, almost a comedy, to maintain levity in fathoming its existence. So no, I will not stop from evoking critical discourse (on any blog), plugging the positive, communicating my spin, and yes, even offering some needed comical levity to it all. Why? Because too many people have appreciated it. I just won’t hog 6miles blog and do it anymore.
And, one more thing (here I promise—unless you welcome it 6mile). This is a topic I AM emotionally vested in too…I gotta stand up for my man!!! And well, my people!!! I might have an Indian family some day and as I have said over and over, I’m pretty pro-Indian in lots of ways. I just am, call me biased, crazy or whatever, but I like the culture as a whole quite a bit. My experience has been radically different and being aware of all the “trappings of Indians” as suggested over there didn’t help me all that much. It just made me more afraid and paranoid. And I’m not big on the politics of fear.
Anyway, opinion purged. Moving right along…
Now, 6mile, what are you doing about that list? Now is the time for action…. is it the summer of loooove…. ????
Honestly……………….Nevermind it is not even worth my breath.
I don’t care if you have a little groupie band who think we are the “rush Limbaughs” of intercultural relationships (that’s pretty hilarious–let me guess, next you’ll be comparing us to Hitler?). And now you’re spewing your vitriol on every blog you can find? Do you have a MySpace page where you poke fun at us, too? That would totally rock like Neil Diamond in a pink boa. Let me know so I can friend you. Ang loves to read about what a racist bitch I am — it gets him hot. Then maybe later we can get some new ringtones and share sex secrets. It’ll be sooo awesome!!
6mile: on this thread about “11 things I would like in a girl”, isn’t this ironic? Sorry to cause such a circus – I didn’t realize my commenting on your post was going to ignite something ugly.
Dooby dooby dooo, beware of the penguins..
Sorry, I was just trying to lighten up the atmosphere a bit.. especially with the jedi comment. Would you like a green, blue, red, or purple one WmWB. Even better yet, we could make a NEW color. 6mile? mirchi? would you like one as well.. vrooom.
Anyway, now that school is over for the semester 6mile, are you taking summer classes? Or are you onto bigger and better things for the season of the sun? I myself plan on studying for that big PCAT test. I need to get my ducks in a row or I am goint to simply end up in a dead-end job, working myself to death for pauper’s coins. I’d rather be the one in charge if that is going to be the case and at least earn a descent pay with it.. LOL. But all work and no play makes for a very sad me, so I will be spending some time at the pool and lake as well
Ara I know you and 6mile are like me (wanting everyone to be happy and get along..you know do not like tention) lol so I am sorry I just cannot take it anymore. Everyone knows that CA is my friend in “the real world” and I feel it is personally offensive. If someone doesn’t have the respect enough for CA they should at least have the respect for me or everyone else on the blog not to start with the crud…there is ENOUGH of that in real life, you know…
As for Jedi’s naw I think I will pass on that.. I am feeling more like a hall monitor or a “nanny” or perhaps a turtle (one that is about to duck into my shell [read: the movie blog] and stay and wait for the weather to clear [read:B.S.]).
Now that school is over you do need to study young lady LMAO and as for Mr. 6mile well he is behind on his homework [read:movie reviewing]!!! hahahahahaha ok away I go.
I really have nothing to add. Given the quality of the arguments that followed, I think the verdict is pretty clear. Onward ho…
I’m not taking any classes in summer ara, my grades are right on the hedge, so i’ve been kinda dull, hehe.I’ve been working and going swimming, racquetball and stuff like that to shed some extra weight I have. I’ve been contemplating some stuff lately, but nothing serious.
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When you earn a decent pay, I hope you splurge at least some of it
Lets call an end to the whole matter. I’ll bring out my list pretty soon,NK and I’m working on the movie reviews,wmwb, remembering the worst movies is such a hard task
. CA, had said nothing toxic in this post , I feel that cbc sometimes has been highly policed, and you have faced the brunt, its they’re blog and they can do as they like.
Like you said wmwb, all of us come here to run away from some real life issues, this post has given NK an opportunity to went out her frustrations on cbc, misunderstandings or not.
That said,I’m sorry to NK and CA, if my post has caused heart ache to any of you.
On a totally different note, I have a phrase stuck in my head. I keep seeing commercials for Alvin and the Chipmunks, which I have already seen. It’s when Alvin goes, “bow chicka-wow-wow” in that little chipmunk voice. So, I dunno, it seemed to flow with the original subject matter of this post hehe, esp when you said working out..
6mile — no worries —- I totally bring it upon myself (and don’t mind). Seriously, it was bound to spark up and my initial “can’t imagine 6mile and shallow…” was in no way intended to inflame anybody. It was just kind of an off the cuff thought and I wasn’t expressing disgust(?). It’s really funny when people attach emotions to things you write–but it’s actually only happened to me over at the cbc site (high sensitivity, I think). So of course it was taken personal and evoked an unwarranted response which is why I took the opportunity to vent (thanks for that). And in terms of speaking my critical opinions on blogs, please, I do that all the time and on any topic that tweaks my mellon. As you know 6mile, I’ll give you my unabashed opinion on ANY subject. But I suppose it’s more sexy and exciting for people to think I attack them exclusively.
Anyway, yes we can go on!!!
I think I am the disgruntled chipmonk. HAHAHA. Hey do you guys know Larry David? Do you watch Curb your Enthusiasm?? When I get a chance I want to write a post called “The Female Larry David” because that’s who I am—R can verify.
I think you should visit Texas this summer, 6mile…
I don’t know who Larry David is..please explain NK.
Hmm, that’s not a bad idea, 6mile taking a road trip to the 2nd largest state in the U.S…err Texas that is hehe
6mile… where have you been? Its high time to see another post from you(doesnt have to be the darn list!).
Are your exams finished now? Having too much fun?!?!?!
Oh god ara, just go rent Curb your Enthusiasm dvd’s… I’m not sure if you would like them, but I do
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Yes, just post something 6mile. We miss you.
“CA, had said nothing toxic in this post , I feel that cbc sometimes has been highly policed, and you have faced the brunt, its they’re blog and they can do as they like.”
sorry to dredge this up again since I haven’t been back since my last post. I figured it was better to stay away since NK has such an irrational hatred for me, and I didn’t want to make things worse since it’s your blog.
But I’m gonna rant here myself for a moment, and you feel free to delete it later if it doesn’t float your boat.
I frankly got sick of NK constantly making snippy little comments about white women (“WASPs”) – and yet we can’t critique other cultures? Like because she “likes Indians better”?
After a while you get tired of hearing from a bunch of WHITE GIRLS about how much WHITE GIRLS suck. It’s stupid and immature. And since I’m a WHITE GIRL and I don’t mind being one, I guess it got old after a while. NK was the one who couldn’t take the heat. As soon as I decided to take off the gloves after one of her many “WASP-y girls are stooopid, Indians got the FLAVA” dumbass comments, she ran for the hills screaming about censorship and oppression and whatever else.
A big fat WHATEVER on that one, yo.
And for the record – nobody was ever banned except for GoriGirl and her husband, since they never posted on CBC unless it was to call us racists, or promote their own website with a link. That got old after awhile too.
You’re not blogging about anything controversial here, so you likely don’t get hate mail. As you said, it’s our blog and we wanted it to be a place where we could talk about whatever we needed to, without being screamed at or constantly judged (or called racist). Our readership (however small it may be at this stage) is there because they are interested in what we have to say, are entertained, or need to hash out their own issues. And that’s certainly not our fault. We don’t go around advertising our website and trying to gain attention for ourselves, because we aren’t interested in drama. If people think we are negative and not glorifying Indian culture enough, they can read GoriGirl’s or whoever’s site. That’s fine by us. Funny, though, how there are so many girls finding CBC because they are dealing with hurtful stuff from the potential Indian in-laws though, huh? But we must be imagining it. We’re crazy – everything is awesome, and we’re just Negative Nellies….
And I think I’ve said all I want to on this subject.
yeah… if you write stuff like “indian parents don’t care about their children’s happiness” — CBC quote – the post is now deleted, you’re gonna have a LOT of people pissed off – Indian and otherwise.
I think “taking the heat” is one thing… and blatantly blocking and banning all comments/commenters that disagree with your ethno-centric, racist and demeaning opinions is quite another. At any point anyone called you out, CA & CBC blocked the commenter, deleted the comment and then b****ed.
……………… so 6mile ………………… you and Ara are slackin on the blogs both on your own sites and on the movie one lol. Maybe if you write more, there would be something more to discuss?
Haha, WmWB, I read this right after I posted a movie review… hehehe how funny is that..
Sorry about being such a slacker hehe. I honestly have been. I’ve been on vacation from work..which has been good because of the nice little welts hehe. I just got back from my parents..which is good. If I stayed there, I’d weight 400 lbs or more hehehe…my mom always spoils me with GREAT homecooked meals. I don’t know if I mentioned this before or not..I’m sure I have..but I am a HORRIBLE cook! I feel like mom has had me under house-arrest though. The doctor told me not to get out in the sun because it makes the welts itch worse, nor anything else that gets me hot and sweaty LOL…did I mention it’s in the 90’s with 80% humidity.. so mom took that as I am not supposed to go outside PERIOD. Doesn’t matter if I am in my late 20’s or not… we’ll always be those small kids in our parents eyes…which means loved.. lots LOL
I need to post some, i’ve been slacking a lot
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My mom is a cook par excellence, every one in the entire family tree and neighbor hood knows her cuisine.However she cooks in miscue quantities, making sure you dont get too much of the good stuff , wanting for more. I’ve gained maybe 20 pounds after coming here, Im shedding some of that weight now
. Food is like Kryptonyte for me these days.
You are both lucky to have moms like that
I wish I could taste some of your moms cooking 6mile, hehe.
Although I do like cooking, I enjoy the eating part much better, and sometimes its just so good to taste someone elses cooking!!
I made pav bhaji today, after long time. It was YUMMY!
hahaha yea Ara I noticed that too.
For me it is not my mom who spoils me but my MIL. My mom cooks but her cooking is more experimental lol. My MIL is a good cook (gormet) but my hubby is also really good (grill) and I am ok (baking) hehe add us all together and it is yummy!
6mile and Ara (whitey if you want to as well!) I have a little assignment over for you at my blog…
Heheh, great minds think alike eh NK???
Oh but you guys are my only friends!!!!
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I meant, you have been tagged 6mile!
No way Mirchi, you have friends all over!!! CT likes you a lot, too. heheheh….
I’d really like a nice, refreshing post from 6mile some time soon…
I’m sorry guys, I’ve been drifting in free space lately, i’ll be posting pretty soon, and I’m up on the assignment
You notice that he is off drifting in space and not taking any trips..such as to the Lone Star State..muahhaa
Such a slacker…how do I know, because mom always said, “it takes one to know one..” heheheh j/k 6mile
hehe ara ! I haven’t seen much of you lately