The Black Sheeple June 8, 2008
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I’m going through one of those phases again, where I just like to stay to myself. Which it seems off late to happen more often than not. I think I’m a narcissist, just too stubborn to admit it.
There is this new guy at work who keeps telling me ” You think your better than everyone else !, Dont You !!! “, Just as a joke. I think back and I feel like maybe, maybee he is right.
I’m just not cut out for this world , I guess. I excel at being talkative and talking my mind to strangers. But, somehow fall short of making friends. Just little things I say end up being controversial. I want to live just like everyone else, but I always end up a maverick. Nor here , nor there, Ahhhhhhhh !
I really don’t understand girls, if she is overly sweet and funny with you , does that mean shes interested in you ? If she sounds distantly aloof , whats that supposed to mean. I feel myself pondering celibacy these days.
Maybe, its time for me to get in line with everyone else.
I guess “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” is one good book which helps to unravel the mystery called ‘GIRLS’
6mile, women are just hard to read. I won’t lie, we are. To be honest, if it was up to me, I would rather work with a hard working guy than a really emotional/hormonal woman any day of the week. That being said, I have always just been referred to as “one of the guys.” In fact, I told CS yesterday about how women really are in regards to relationships. I grew up on the brass line in band because I play trumpet. There were only 3 girls out of about 16 people in that line, so I got used to hearing what I’ll refer to as “lockeroom humor.” I also worked as a grocery stocker and back-up grocery manager for the company that I am an RX tech for now. Being the only girl on the grocery crew, I heard it all, but found out, guys are easily distracted and can be lazy if not kept on tasks, but are usually 10x easier to work with than women.
Women, well, for about a week and half out of the month just get crazy with hormones. ANYTHING will set them off, and for some reason, it has been noticed by scientists that women’s cycles will all line themselves up together if they are in close quarters constantly. That many hormones just magnify and someone always ends up hurt is seems. Also, the more high-strung the woman, the more she drives me nuts *err one of my bosses*.
Aloofness can be taken for either not interested, or interested but too shy to speak up. If you persist without any positive results from an aloof girl, just move on, she’s not into you. If you get a small smile, take it as a positive and try to hang in there. The overly sweet and funny can also mean interested, but usually just as friends. When people aren’t “looking for love” they tend to be more comfortable around others, lightening up and more able to be funny freely. When you find your girl, don’t make the mistake of hanging out with her girlfriends unless she is present also. You’ll plant the seeds of doubt in her brain. She may deny it, but secretly, she’ll think you’re romantically interested in her friend. That will fester within her and become a sore you don’t want to mess with. Don’t take it personally if she doesn’t want you to be “good friends” with her friends. Both of you will need your own space and that includes your own friends. Don’t talk about the ex’s or what you find so attractive in another woman, you’ll make her feel like she’s in a competition and possibly not adequate. Also, you’ll have to figure it out on your own, but some women just LIKE to be right. It doesn’t always matter if they’re wrong, but if you let them have “that last word” every now and then, then you’ll sometimes earn a few extra points in her book for you. But, sometimes our argueing is just a way of flirting.
No, women are NOT easy to read, but neither are men for us. I haven’t read the book recommended, but perhaps I should.
@ ara0062
that was one heck of a explanation……..
@ 6mile & ara0062
since we are talking about girls, i guess the link given below will add something to the cause of understanding girls…..
http://vinni.co.in/?p=141
We all go through spells where we want to be alone. It is easier to stay by ourselves because we know ourselves and are “safe”.
I think most of the more sucessful people in the world think they are better than everyone else and that is why they can suceed so much. I think there is nothing wrong with feeling that way to an extent as long as you do not treat people bad (like belittling them).
It is VERY easy to talk to strangers about things but it is much harder to dig deep and make friends at times because you have to let down your guard. “Just little things I say end up being controversial.” Yes, I know how this feels… I tend to speak my mind too much it seems.
As for girls….. as Ara said girls are hard to read. My advice is go with the flow, do not think too much on anything. Asking straight forward questions usually leads to straight forward answers. Just because a girl is overly sweet and funny with you that is not an indication she likes you and if she sounds distantly aloof it might mean something is on her mind or it might be nothing lol. That is why I say ask straight forward questions like why do you seem distant etc.
Sachin, that website link was hilarious…and it was also very true. Sorry for such a long post 6mile, I just thought if I explained it, maybe it would make it a bit easier to read us women.. also I really did like that word sheeple.. that’s funny!
Me thinks Sachin understands girls very well, hehe.
Those are some really wise thoughts ara, most people I meet seem so cool about certain stuff, I ain’t. I’ve always felt girls are more trust worthy than guys, maybe because I’m a guy and I know secrets from they’re side.
wmwb, All of us crave attention, we like to be in the limelight, some more so than others. After all humans are social creatures. I always say the think I like about being in US of A is that I’m a nobody and I get to start on a black slate. Sometimes, I feel the very opposite, I cant go wherever I please, I don’t know eat outs that sooth my taste buds, I cant just hang out with a buddy, I’m restricted to try something adventurous, sometimes I feel like I have social life. Ha Ha
6mile,
I think we all feel that when we are in a place unfamiliar regarding your two opposites. Maybe it’s an American thing…but I feel just like that at times too. I know it sounds stupid, but at times, I would LOVE to just jump in the car and drive to random, far off destinations, and then I think, “will it anger my mom?, will she fuss at me for wastefulness?, etc.” For some reason, I have always hated being reprimanded by her. My dad always seems to have no problems with what I decide to go out and do..he usually encourages it, saying I stay at home entirely too much. In fact, when I do go places, I may tell dad, but a lot of times I hide it from my mom. I just don’t want to hear her fuss at me..does that make any sense?
Yeah, sometimes I do feel like running away, sometimes I feel like staying putt. Life throws so many choices at you, and sometimes I dont want to pick.