Stuff that happend… over summer September 10, 2008
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I turned 23 a month ago. We’ll I’m still single and as impure in thought as one can be. I happen to run across this on a site….. Its from a 100% extra pure virgin,
” I’m 25 and never been kissed.
I’ts not that I dont want to…. I’ts just that no one else does “
I happened to meet a pretty girl ‘S and shes fun to talk to and we have become friends. A few days on she told me she always liked Indian guys and thought I was cute and sexy. I was very enamored , people never compliment me for anything more than my eyes, lol. She is in between two guys right now, and she been asking me to have s** with her. I’ve said no, but my body says other wise. She been pulling on it again. I have been asking myself the question, am I person not worth having a serious relationship. I dont want to be that guy who was never good enough. My eyes so swollen, I feel so scared.
hmmm……., I had posted this post a few weeks ago, but took it off again. I was not too sure,If I wanted my stuff out in the open. I’m pretty open minded when it comes to s**, I think two people can go out and have a good time. I’m worried about not finding my happily ever after. Anyways, I’ve stopped talking to her, lol.
I’m a person who does not always fit the norm. I also used to wonder if I look ugly, hehe. Well, I have a date this Thursday with a girl who wants to know about India.
Darn it ! Why, you are half my age …23 LOL. But listen you can spell sex on your blog. It’s just a 3-letter word, nothing to be scared of. I do appreciate you keeping away from the girl ..She is in between two guys right now …she could be a nymphomaniac looking for love in all wrong places…When you are ready for a relationship which entails sex you will be ready and you will know it. Good luck and enjoy the date.
6mile,
I agree with Meena.. you should wait until you find the right girl.. not someone wanting to just use you for instant gratification. Honestly, most women form some sort of bond with a man after sex. It’s not intentional, it is just hard wired into our systems that way, well for most of us it is. As for never being kissed.. my first real kiss was last year.. when I was 27. So never fear, when it is meant to be, it will happen. You should enjoy your date though, but just don’t anything that makes either one of you uncomfortable. Personally, I am opposed to random, casual sex, but it has to do with my upbringing and seeing too many STD’s and teenage pregnancies in the small town I grew up in..
Well you are happily settled Meena , while I’m still looking, hehe.
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I’ve walked away from such girls before, I don’t think I will next time
I might sound stupid but I’m not against casual sex, even though I wont do it, lol. I’m liberal , but hold back when it comes to my personal life. I’m am like a misfit in society, i guess
My date yesterday was kinda weired, she asked me out saying she wanted to know more about India, and got bored when I told her anything. She’s sounded like a party girl, wanted me to hang out with her. Anyways, we are going to meet again, lets see how it goes.
A few weeks ago there were these two freshmen walked in where I worked, they seemed Xtra nice, and wanted me to hang out with them. I said No, ‘coz a coworker came and whispered to me they might be under age. A few days later, I’m walking on campus and of of them comes up to me and hugs me, lol. Saying friends for life !
I’ always wonder if something is wrong with me,sometimes..i feel people around me have something wrong in them, hehe.
Life seems always full of hard choices.. Umm.. no pun intended!
I wonder if you are meeting these kind of girls because its a college campus. Or maybe thats how girls are… I dont know. Like you, I CONSTANTLY feel like a misfit. And this kinda stuff gives white girls the bad name I guess.
I wonder too… do these girls do it to feel wanted? Or what is the motive. Sorry, I dont think girls are just like guys but repressed, or shy or any of that stuff. That same drive or feeling just isnt there for “most” women.
Of course you are a normal guy and this stuff would be so tempting. I can definitely understand. You have to ask yourself if you want the thrill of emotional intimacy or physical. I dont know if Im against casual sx or not (personally, its not for me), but do remember if they are offering it up for you, who knows how many they have offered it before without knowing them. So just BE CAREFUL!
Hmm sorry if Im sounding like big sis :-p
Hmm I also see nothing wrong with casual sex but I think you need to get to know the person first because of the risks sex brings. I think a certain level of experience is good to have especially at your age. I applaud you for waiting out for so long but I do not think it is necessary to wait for marriage. I think some people make too much out of waiting and a lot of people too little so I think you have waited enough go out have fun but be safe lol but I do think it was a good choice not sleeping with that girl because 1) she seemed too easy/desperate 2) she was in between two other guys … whom she could have still been casually sleeping with…
j/k that creeped my out just writing that!
As for this new girl I think she asked you out using learning about India as the ice breaker. I think she might like ya!
Oh and the other girls who do not really know you who walk up to you saying Friends for life and hugging you are emotionally not mature and even if they are over 18 physically mentally they arent so I would stay away… my BFF! HAHAHAH
GO 6MILE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Bring on the Old Spice!!!!!!!!!!!! Can’t wait to hear a post-date report….
Mirchi, I have lived with my family most of my life and I felt very loved. I always felt like I had someone to hug. I’ve always had an interest in girls in the ulterior sense, maybe too much. Now, I live far away from my house, I sometimes feel very lonely, I just wish I had someone to hug me real tight. I dunno maybe many of these girls feel that way too.
I feel like I’m not cut out for dating western style, then again there is no way I’m going in for an arranged marriage, the best part is my parents are willing to accept this
. It makes life a lot easier when your mom and dad trust you, but then again you don’t want to let them down.
wmwb, I’m not really waiting for marriage,hehe. I frankly don’t know what I’m waiting for
. I could really do with a relationship, where I feel loved. I think I fail mostly because I’m toooo shy and selective, I dont think I’m a good looking guy, I’ve noticed more girls checking me out though,lol. I wonder what has changed.
NK, I’m going out with again, pretty soon with this girl I met this Thursday , I frankly prefer sometimes casual and fun. She wants to go out drinking friday night,hehe. You know what the girl ‘S I talked about in my post told me, You need to spread some Indian Spice, lol.
” I wonder what has changed.” It is your demeanor most likely. Us girls here are telling are helping you out! You are a nice guy and good looking so you should remember that. A confident (but not too confident) guy is very appealing!
Way to go 6mile
As for the casual sex, I meant opposed against it for me LOL. I try not to judge others when discussing the subject because each person learns and experiences things in their own time and place
6m there is NOTHING wrong with being selective. I would see a lot more wrong in taking just whatever comes along… ya know?
Plus I think sx is way more fun with someone you actually know enough to LIKE and that makes the “wanting” all the more. I say hold out for that. But of course… do as you please
wmwb, I dont know if im the confident type, lol. I basically jump in and the fear of failure drives me. Guess what ?? I’ve stayed away from girls so long, I’m to close to taking the plunge.
ara, I dont think I’m the kind of person who would jump into bed with someone, though I’d like to for the sake of , hehe, thats another matter
I know what you mean Mirchi, there comes a time when one might just give up, lol. I hope that day does not come for me.
Maybe , I should start calling you Mirchi didi
My parents know I’ve always been against having an arranged marriage and they have always been for it. Each of us have been passively passing our agenda silently over time. Its kind of a very big break for me just to date a girl,something here thats taken pretty much for granted here.
My mom called while writing this comment, these days out of the blue she makes it a point to let me know I can marry any one I please, even an American, our conversations border the hilarious. She, knows how lonely I feel. Its kind of nice when she knows that, even without me telling her.
Finally, now I know what everyone looks like
I am going to blame things on my parents to a degree. If they hadn’t had such a rocky marriage.. being married to each other 3 times now, I might have been more willing to jump out and date others. But, my mom did not let me nor my brother date until we were 16, plus, every single time I tell my mom I like a guy I get a lecture. First, it’s that I am very naive when it comes to guys.. which always hurts my feelings. Second, that I need to be careful when dating guys that aren’t Americans because of the way they were raised culturally or that they could be looking for an easy green card. And then, they incessant teasing begins. When you are shy to begin with, constant nagging type teasing doesn’t make you want to be outgoing. She always infers that guys that I like are simply using me for one reason or another. That doesn’t help with confidence. Yeah, I had some issues with the last guy.. it was called trying to cut off ties and get over him. Sometimes I simply feel that deep down, my mom just doesn’t want me to be happy or be with anyone. I can’t tell you how many times she has told me that I would be better off by myself.
“Sometimes I simply feel that deep down, my mom just doesn’t want me to be happy or be with anyone. I can’t tell you how many times she has told me that I would be better off by myself.”
She wants you to be happy and with someone but she is trying to save you the heartbreak she has seen. She thinks that if you are by yourself it will save you. It is something that mothers say who have been through troubled relationships… My mom is on her 6th marriage.
ara, I think your mom is being over protective of you, sometimes no experience is good experience. To put it in your words.” ……o many STD’s and teenage pregnancies in the small town I grew up in.. ” no mom wants that for her kids. wmwb, is soo right, parents want they’re kids to be happy at the end of the day.
My parents have gone through bad times too, my mom has threated to walk away from the marriage,once…. My dad’s a workaholic and spends far too much time at work, even now. Things worked out, they are married 30 years as of this one
I guess I simply just get tired of hearing that I would be better off alone, that I am naive or stupid about guys. Honestly, when I go on a date with someone I don’t know well, I give the guy’s info and the place we’re supposed to be to 2 of my closest friends. We have a pre-arranged call time set up. If I don’t call or I call and give them a specific word, they are to call 911. I leave ALL of the guy’s information that I have on a notepad where those 2 friends know where it will be as well. You can never be too safe these days, so perhaps I am not as stupid about dating as she seems to think I am. Honestly, I just don’t talk to her much about dating stuff because of the way she acts about it. For someone with so much insight, she sure doesn’t have a clue about the last jerk I dated, she’s been trying to push me BACK to him. And she DOES know the whole story on that one… I am like WTH? Yeah, and I mean CS when I said the “last jerk.” She is simply NOT a good person to talk to about such things, and I am afraid that is just the way it will have to be. I have close friends, and good friends on here who have given me great advice in the past, and I intend to stick by it!
glad you have someone to talk to
, I’m also glad everyone is safe after the hurricane.